My blinds were closed and I took a picture of my three year old grandson sitting in a chair by the window. I am not going anywhere. Just this morning, my husband was getting ready for work and noticed our 5 month old dog barking on the porch. I know they will, because they have proven it. They did, but he never did stop, so I started writing down everything he has said, including the dirty name calling, threatening to kill us and anything else you can think of. In the law, true harassment is often very difficult to prove. I have had witnesses and called the cops, but they constantly say there isn't anything they can do. I will try the headphones as I come and go, and start the paper trail. We've always gotten along well with everyone else here. I did find one from St. Louis who is at least willing to listen to what is going on. The officer said the neighbor insisted my wife be arrested, and I said our two witnesses strongly insist that you don’t take any serious action based on the facts. I'm a single mother of two and have been for all my time here and that fence may not have been perfect, but it was the best I could do and for someone to swoop in and call my best, crap and then make it worse really doesn't sit well. (Bloomberg) -- Bill Gross told a code enforcement officer in the Southern California city where he lives that he’d stop blaring the “Gilligan’s Island” sitcom theme song at all hours if his neighbor would drop a complaint about a sculpture on the billionaire’s oceanfront property, the official told Because this can lead to legal action, for any case of reported harassment, the association should always refer the complaint to legal counsel (or law enforcement if there is a threat for bodily harm, an owner’s safety, or the … Anyway, the next incident happened the next day. We have asked the officer what could be done about what he has done to us and they said nothing could be done because he is on his own property. This has turned me into a recluse in my own home. My husband finally said, “I am going to talk to her and see what is she doing?” He went to talk to her and she was very polite, sweet and friendly. You at least need someone who is paid to advocate for you. Immediately, his tenant began parking commercial vehicles in front of my home 24/7 as well as four other vehicles! It makes no sense to me. Anyone? Court is in the morning, so I hope it works. I have also always had a pool out back and when she moved in, she had a small son so I went to discuss the pool with here so she would be at ease. She claims to be a "counselor." I have neighbors who don't seem to like me and try to intimidate me by making me feel like they are constantly watching me. We never even spoke to her and her husband more than twice since we moved in to our home. P.S. She has turned all my neighborhood against me by telling lies. She hasn’t really bothered me again so far, but just this week, I was in the manager’s office discussing something minor and unrelated, and who do you think walked in? Posts Tagged ‘Neighbor Harassment’ How to Deal with Neighbor Harassment. His son has told us they always had to move all the time because he would harass other neighbors. In most places the term has both a legal definition and a more common understanding. Is it because we are ethnic? We spoke on the phone and she wants to see what I have for evidence. We all got along on the street until these new people moved in and they have done nothing but cause trouble. He threatened to arrest and jail my wife. I need advice. Do not seek out your neighbor to borrow anything or initiate any conversations if the harassment … I have lived here for eight years, with no huge problems, then in April, bam! (US law and generally) Harassment is a serious issue, and though we might expect it on the street or even at work, it often blindsides us when we are at home. There was no intent to trespass in the area. Wow. You don't have to become intimate friends. @anon340441: You need an attorney. This is absolutely ridiculous. A landlord may perform these actions to disrupt the tenant's quiet, peaceful enjoyment of the rental unit, force the tenant to move from the unit or force the tenant to refrain from pursuing a legal right they have. A person can be legally allowed to express an opinion, but misrepresenting facts or lying about facts regarding a neighbor might be considered harassment. We mediated with the police officer. At first it was sending threatening text messages and calling using different phone numbers (apparently there are iphone and smartphone apps that enable this). I called 911 and still no result, but my husband had to post bond for felony charges because he hit her gate! If I get one more, I will be out of here. If you find yourself with a bad neighbor, here is some advice to help you get through it all: Start by writing a letter detailing the situation (remember to keep a log), and give it to the manager of your building (if you’re in an apartment complex, there will usually be a window/letterbox to drop it off in). I just moved into HUD housing for senior and disabled people and the neighbors have been rude and intrusive since day one, have gossiped about me, stand and stare if I step outside my door. Harassment can be in the form stalking, neighbor nuisance, workplace conduct and campaigns of harassment carried out by pressure groups such as animal rights protestors. I live in an apartment building on the third floor and for the past two years now I have had a problem with the neighbor right below me. I told the officer he has some kind of an issue, but the officer told us to get a harassment order going on him, and then they will be able to do something. Not to mention the "so called" harassment is knocking on a door and asking for a cigarette, which isn't true, but what happened was I asked to borrow a cup of sugar. I asked someone if, in fact, the city still had the ordinance and how and when do violators get found. What? One of my windows faces their yard and every time I approach that room there's something moving, trying to let me know that they are watching. I have been in the direct line of fire from my neighbor's harassment for five years. The thing is, he has lived below us for over three years now and it has been two years now that he has been intentionally doing this to us. In an empty cul de sac, he parked directly and horizontally blocking my driveway. It's worth a try. I sympathize with you and know how you feel. It can be very difficult to prove in a court of law that a neighbor has committed either of these sorts of harassment since the legal requirements tend to be really high, but the effects can be very obvious and damaging. Single mother of 2 (My neighbor) complained a few months ago to my landlord about sexual noises coming from my apartment. I need help! All these three neighbors are grown adults. I understand that the hallway is considered community territory, but when he does this the heat soars right up to my apartment door and it causes my air conditioning to run nonstop for hours without dropping to the setting I have it at. When these complaints are transformed into insults, disrespect, violence or threats is when you must act against the blocking. She watches everything I do via her window or another neighbor's porch. I live in HUD housing and I am disabled. I could really use your input. We are not going to do that. He routinely harasses after we asked him nicely to tone down the noise and yelling and not to swim in our pool when we are not home or not invited over. For example, your neighbor may start calling in noise complaints to the police directed at your property. That could be construed as abuse of a child. I try to never let them be a barking problem, although, it gets very difficult with three little yorkies, and neighbors that seem to do all they can possibly do to make the dogs bark and become aggressive, day and night along my back fenceline. According to NFD, the victim, a 57-year-old man, had been pulled from his apartment and dragged to safety by a neighbor. I discovered a 2-foot hole in the fence. Now they have constructed a fence up against and touching mine in the back, and a shorter one way over the property line in the front - blocking my central air unit, took off my downspout etc. It can be somewhat difficult to put a fixed definition on what exactly constitutes harassment in these settings since so much of it depends on the circumstances. I love the Buddha ways of teaching, again, not something that is liked by my family or neighbors apparently, either. As a middle aged woman who has gone through so very much, and still kept my senses, and behavioral control about me for the most part, I simply cannot agree with that kind of Nazi thinking, nor will I ever cave into that type of "forced" personal behavioral change. In my professional experience, I have found that within the multiple weapons that the pathological harasser can use to besiege his neighbor who is the object of his crime, one of the most sophisticated, due to its difficulty in terms of proof in court, is noise. Let me say this: my kids are teenagers and these people have two young kids. If you do, tell the social worker about this woman and tell her it's having a detrimental effect on your granddaughter's mental health and see if she has any suggestions. They always have food, shelter and clothes. Especially used with nocturnality and treachery. There is also security dispatched in my neighborhood. I will say the other neighbors probably feel very sorry for you. The report didn't even mention the gun until I pushed for a week and went up the chain of command! Each time the police come into the flat, say nothing is wrong and leave. My safety comes first. I've gone to the police, but they don't do anything until someone gets hurt! This has not happened. She has tried to refuse my granddaughter access to the stairs. Anyway, the office may send out a social worker and they will open a case file on him. Too often, we are told to "just deal with it," or that bad neighbors are a part of life. If the friendly action does not affect, the next step is to carry out a complaint of harassment, which is included in the Criminal Code as a crime of insult. From here, it is important that the rest of the community of neighbors understand the situation and help it not to repeat itself or provoke a violent atmosphere among them. Luckily, I had detailed info for both incidents, because I’d texted my husband in hysterics both times it happened, so I typed up a complaint letter for the manager (who requested it from everyone involved), and that was that. Besides the corresponding fines and compensation for damages and damages. They're obligated to come out and check on her, then. They said they couldn't do anything because it was on private property. It was pointed at my back yard. Any advice? His house is outside of the neighborhood development. In the corridor I smelt the smoke, I cough a couple of time before running out. A few doors down, she had a woman's boyfriend arrested and thrown in jail. It is so untrue. This woman also had our car towed because it sat in our driveway too long, and what was amazing, the cop had it towed without informing us. Well, one day, he followed us into a parking lot and waited for us to get out of our car and started the dirty name calling. Our neighbors are nice enough, especially those in our building, save one woman in her 60s who is apparently mentally deteriorating. My wife’s cat of 15 years disappeared shortly after a huge search turned up nothing. Harassment that centers on speech, like calling a neighbor names or “trashing” his or her reputation in the community, can be especially problematic, particularly in places that put a lot of value on free speech. I am scared to talk to the guy since the neighbor's wife told me the tenant was a gun nut and a recluse. She has called me obscene names in front of my children, harasses my kids by yelling at them calling them obscene names. This continued for weeks. I do not take food stamps, nor do I get any other type of help from the government. Most situations, after numerous attempts of talking to your neighbor amicably have failed, may require you to get the police involved and hire an attorney. She is a problem neighbor. I think all of them need to be in a mental institution. Required fields are marked *. I have to keep the windows and door shut or she will start in, even to the point of saying I'm spying, on her or she will blow cigarette smoke in my window. But I was stopped mid-sentence when he pointed a gun at me telling me to get back in the house where I belonged (expletive deleted)!" It's gotten worse. I was told all the situations before the mediation no longer apply, even though it hasn't even been a full month since the mediation itself. @anon345543: It's easier said then done to ignore the jerk, especially when he's always harassing you every day for nothing. He said the constitution provides your right to know and face your accusers. He told the officer it was the city right of way since there are no sidewalks and recent survey markers are still visible. The first neighbor has a grandma, older lady, and her boyfriend or whatever. After he makes a comment he tends to apologize to my husband, saying he wants no trouble, but why does he continue to push issues that he has no right to? I have a very large back yard. How to make and decorate Christmas postcards, Oven – Read more about the different functions, Special Portugal: 5 destinations to discover. Finn has... One of the biggest problems that we have to deal with in the modern world has arisen from one of mankind’s greatest achievements. I had to let my dogs out the other night and had turned the back light on and you could hear them out there pitching a fit because of it. Thanks everyone. I get people keeping to themselves, but if you're going to trespass on a regular basis you might just take a minute to introduce yourself. Whether we're coming or going, there she is. She made false accusations against my husband recently claiming he tried to run her over when he finally snapped and took down her gate with his truck (I was not aware of this until a little while later), since the gate was what always stopped the cops from "being able to do anything", and she claimed he tried to run her over. I understand that some of you may not have too many friends or relatives to come by your place. Let’s be clear: any tenant who continually harasses, threatens, or otherwise compromises their neighbors’ well-being should be held accountable, and if necessary, evicted from the property. I place a battery operated night motion light in our window. It can lead to consequences that can affect the health of those who suffer. She used to stop my family and asked personal questions until I told her not to do that anymore, but then she started getting with other neighbors to stare at me. Actually, most of my friends over the years at first would be very open and concerned, but soon, they seemed to be not interested in what was going on, and eventually, they would just stop being my friend, and tell me I have a very screwed up family to have to deal with, and they pity me. Good times at the "crazy cove trailer park." 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